Being with family for the holidays is of course important, but I feel like so many families rush around from place to place and for me that takes all of the joy out of the holidays. I used to feel like we were letting people down when we were unable to attend something on a holiday, but I have let that guilt go and instead focus on how I want the holidays to be for us. I want our family of four to have our own traditions, things to look forward to, and expectations.
The traditions families have are important, but it is inevitable that families continue to grow and with that growth it is only natural for these traditions to change. Just because something has been done for past generations does not mean that it has to continue. It does not mean that new family traditions cannot begin. The older members of families need to be accepting of the changes that occur with celebrations and holidays and understand that those with children need to do what is best for their families. Be open to making changes to the existing family traditions so that new traditions can be started while still holding on to a bit of the past.